Love is a word that fills us with desire. We long to experience true love, but we often look for it in the wrong places or confuse the feeling with lust. But love is never a lustful state of mind — like a fire, lust quickly ignites the flame, but the only thing to keep the flame ablaze is the constant care that is only found through love.
God speaks in 1 Corinthians about the importance of love:
If I speak with human eloquence and angelic ecstasy but don’t love, I’m nothing but the creaking of a rusty gate. If I speak God’s Word with power, revealing all his mysteries and making everything plain as day, and if I have faith that says to a mountain, “Jump,” and it jumps, but I don’t love, I’m nothing. If I give everything I own to the poor and even go to the stake to be burned as a martyr, but I don’t love, I’ve gotten nowhere. So, no matter what I say, what I believe, and what I do, I’m bankrupt without love. –1 Corinthians 13:1-7, The Message
Maybe you’ve met the right person in your life who exhibits the qualities of a healthy and holy love but you’re still struggling to find common ground or connect to them. This can be because of unmet expectations or because you have fallen away from the author of love — your Heavenly Father.
When it comes to marriage…
Marriage takes perseverance and persistence; Marriage isn’t to make us happy but it’s to make us holy! When we commit to lifelong marriages, we are committing to allow God to develop our character along the journey.
So if you are in a place in your relationship that feels dark and depressing, remember to reach out to the one who knows you best: Your Creator. Seek Him first and ask Him to give your marriage what it needs to survive and thrive. It may just need a shift in priorities. Because when God is first, your fulfillment will rest in Him alone. Don’t run from the struggles in your marriage. Face them head-on, grow from them, and let your struggles draw you closer to God.
If you are not yet married but are searching for love, be sure you are not settling just to replace feelings of loneliness. Remember…God is the author of love. He wants to give us real love — not the love the world wants to give. The world tells us we shouldn’t be alone and we can settle. Sure, no one is perfect, relationships are all about two imperfect people coming together. But both people should be willing to consistently evaluate themselves and grow! Settling to keep ourselves from the discomfort of loneliness is doing ourselves a disservice. Rest in God during the wait. Allow Him to reveal to you what true love looks like so you can recognize it when it comes!
It’s important to remember that the real love story we can all experience freely is found in our relationship with God.
So what IS love?
Love is something that stands the test of time.
Love is giving without any expectation to receive.
Love is a slow but steady burning.
Love is communication that enables understanding.
Love is ACTION!
So, what does true love mean to YOU? Tell us in the comments!